I can’t speak for all women. But I know for myself, growing up was centered around what I thought women were. Wives and Mothers. Then as I got older and wanted a career, that added another thing to what life as a woman should be. The inglorious aspect of the double xx Chromosome. From the onstart on puberty I am sure most women begin to understand the weight of being a woman. All of my childhood, I was protected. There weren’t that many places I could go unsupervised, even if I was just riding my bike around the neighborhood, my upbringing had me never straying to far from home. This was not the case with my younger brother.
My brother was never really under the same strict supervision that my older sister and I had to endure. And his adolescent summers were filled with exploration. He and his posse would disappear for extended periods of times. When they finally roll up on their bikes, once asked they would explain where they went. Which was practically miles away from home. Further than I, his older sister, would think to venture even now. He had summers of exploration and adventure as a child, while I had summers of imagination and playing in the backyard. So little adventurous boys grow to be adventurous men, while cautious little girls grow to be cautious women with powerful imaginations.
So reading the may issue of Men’s Journal had me realize that men live in their bodies, while women still live in their heads. The issue is full of adventurous deeds by men and places for adventurous men to go. It’s all about getting out there and living life. While reading women’s magazines that encourage women how to be a better girlfriend, have better sex, or how to be fashionable in things that only other women will notice and appreciate, men are out living their lives.
So I decided to still employ my imagination, but start living in my body more. Start going out and having adventures for myself. Just stop being so “Mental” all the time and get “Physical”. What’s the point of having such mental capacity when the men we want to live with can’t even understand us? Men, the ones that are unemotional problem solvers. The “Go Getters”. Getting upset because we want to explore our feelings and the men who have been trained to do something about the things that have upset them instead whining about it looks at us blankly. They are literally “Do’ers.” They will make things happen.