Let’s face it. There are way more good women in the world than there are good men. That’s without even getting racially specific. Looking for a successful, single black man that’s husband material without kids, attractive and wants to marry a black woman is like looking for a unicorn. Especially these days when most are throwing marriage out the window.
It’s one thing knowing what you want. It’s another thing after looking for it for years and not finding it. The older I get, the more I start to question if what I want is unrealistic. Can all those qualities be found in one man? But removing anything from the list feels like giving up and settling for less. It is really like looking for a mythical creature. We believe in it without any evidence.
The lastest discussion among my single gal friends is the unicorn of men. We ask should we just forget about being attracted to our husbands and get a man that is a good provider. That we should whore around with all the sexy-not-about-anything men until we are ready to settle down. Then get a man that at least won’t make life unbearable outside the bedroom. Or should we get the man we are attracted to but adds nothing to our lives except the physical delight. To me, both are unbearable.
I couldn’t see myself with a man that I am not attracted to, even if he is well established, a good man, etc. This man would only ever be my friend. And the idiot that is good for little more than sex is a waste of time. I can’t tie myself to someone with no vision or capabilities. I want a man. Not a child to take of. Accuse me of being greedy. But the ones that ask for much and chase after it determinedly seem to get everything they want and more.
So I want the unicorn. But while you’re laughing at me saying it doesn’t exist, I will continue to wait and believe. I have faith that God will bless me with what I want. I know this for the simple fact that God will withhold no good thing from me. And I do believe that a good man is a good thing. It’s not unicorn impossible.
Side note for my fellow aspiring christians. The unicorn is mentioned nine times in the bible.